Calling in “The One”

May 31st, 2011 . Posted in healing, love, relationships, spirituality 46 Comments »
Tags: love, the one

Oops, did I say half a year ago no more “finding love” books? Tough noogies, because they are by far my most popular reviews.

I’m willing to go out on a limb and call Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life by Katherine Woodward Thomas the best book of its kind. I say that even though I did this entire workbook-style book cover to cover faithfully for seven weeks, three YEARS ago, and have still not called “The One” in close enough for me to actually kiss him hello. No matter, I believe he is merely delayed. Besides, I have gone through so much positive transformation in the last 3 years that back then I never would have attracted the sort of man I’d actually want to be with from here on out.

The author tells her journey-to-love story in the preface. She was a forty-one year old psychotherapist who was single but wanted to be married and have a child. It took a lot of inner work, but it happened for her, and in this book she guides us to make it happen for ourselves (sans child for me please).

The format of the book is that it is divided into seven weeks, each with a theme, and there is a lesson for each and every day consisting of a few pages to read, some practice, which can be a meditation or action, but most typically involves an exercise requiring thought and writing. Some weeks are fun, others more challenging (week three: healing core wounds). It is the type of book that would be ideal to do as a group with friends (or a meetup group) or with at least a buddy. Although at this point in my life it is not my main focus, and I believe I have done most of the work and “The One” will show up when the planets are better aligned for it, it is possible at some point I would revisit the book again, and next time I think it would be very rewarding to work with a buddy or a group.

Calling in The One is a spiritual book, and Woodward Thomas is inspiring. As it’s been a while since I read the book, I just reread the last lesson and loved her advice about focusing on our own development: “Contrary to popular opinion, all the good ones are not taken. They are, however, holding out for someone as fabulous as they are. So, I’d rather encourage you to spend your energy cultivating your own greatness. Instead of spending your time judging and assessing whether or not others are everything you think they should be, concern yourself with whether or not you yourself are everything you’ve ever dreamed of and hoped for.”

Even though I didn’t meet “The One”, I did meet and start seeing a very sweet guy around week 4(?) of doing this book. When I met him, I had been single for a long time, alone a lot, but occasionally dating some jerks that today I wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole. He was much younger than me and hadn’t dated since his girlfriend had died years earlier, and not at all before that either. He was a lovely caring guy (who was even into self-help!). We had a beautiful connection and even though ultimately I didn’t think he was the one for me, and he wanted to experience dating other women, it was nevertheless a positive experience I attribute to the work I did with this book.

Check it out – this book is the best!