Comments on: Getting to “I do”

By: Annette

Annette — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 15:08:32 +0000

Thank you for your input Brenda!

By: Brenda

Brenda — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 17:20:02 +0000

This book was a life saver. I had been dating a guy for several months and I noticed that things were slightly changing between us. He was pulling away, when before in the beginning he was very loving and there for me. I was confused and stressed because I didn’t know what I was doing wrong, or how to win him back. I REALLY really liked him! I found this book, read it from cover to cover and quickly realized that my problem was that he is a masculine man, and I was challenging his position with the misguided thought that men liked women like I was being; less emotional, more physical, extremely self sufficient, outspoken and take charge. I don’t really LIKE being that way, but I did it thinking that it would help. After reading this book, I realized that I WANT to be the feminine energy, and he to be the masculine. We spent a weekend together where I diligently applied all of these rules, and allowed him to lavish me with affection and dote one me, which he quickly began to resume doing once he discovered my new feminine and less sarcastic self. Oh wow, I saw the difference, and ti was amazing! Now we are more in love than ever, and I believe marriage is on the horizon. This book wa the BEST!

By: admin

admin — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 20:05:39 +0000

Thank you for your comment Jade. The book put me on guard at the beginning too, but ultimately I think we interpreted it very differently. (Perhaps you were so angry you didn’t read on?) I don’t think she’s very 1950’s at all; she’s just saying someone has to be acting with masculine energy and the other with feminine energy to have harmony (yin-yang), and she clearly states that it can be the female who is in the masculine role and the male in the feminine just as long as they are comfortable in these roles. It seemed to me like she wants both parties to be happy and be themselves.

By: Jade

Jade — Wed, 26 May 2010 12:11:28 +0000

I thought this book was complete bs. In fact, I have never read a book before going to bed and went to bed angry because of it. And woke up angry. For someone who has helped over “2000 marriages and relationships” I’m betting that the moment this message wore off in people’s head that most of them failed because it is based on “NOT being yourself”. Dont’ talk to him too much. Don’t say your opinion and don’t act upset if he does something you don’t like (unless, she puts, it’s against moral values). Okay, how many of you live in REAL life? I’m sorry, but this follows the same bs jargon of Dr. Laura Slessinger about pretending that it’s 1950 again so your MAN is happy. Not you. You are not to be happy and it doesn’t matter because if your MAN is happy, YOU will be happy. Don’t ever tell him straight forward what you want or ask him how he feels because he is SURE to run off. Who ARE these quack women with doctorates who feel the need to push their outrages views and make women believe this stuff. If you’re not happy in your marriage, my advice is to DO SOMETHING about it. Not sit there read this book, or any book related to it with the idea that things will transform and you will be happy. I’m willing to bet any self-respecting woman that read this book would find it as much garbage as I did.